Past the excitement of the pregnancy test (and after the purchase of 2 other pregnancy tests just to make sure you never know...), we schedule her first appointment, which actually is not really an appointment in Japan. You just go there and wait for your turn. From what i read on French an American websites, you usually have to reserve an appointment one to two weeks before. In Japan, you just go and hope not too many people had the same idea as you.
I help her choosing a clinic close from home where she can go and have her first prenatal visit. The place is apparently run by a Chinese doctor who graduated from Keio university in Japan. My wife seems to be reassured by that and plans to go there the next morning.
This time i have to go to work and i can't go with her. I tell her to call me when the visit is done.
She calls me, tells me the doctor asked a few questions, she did some urine test, had some ultrasound but the doctor couldn't see anything and told it was just too early. Everything done in about 10 or 15 minutes.
She tells me the doctor is not talkative and she basically doesn't really what's happening...
If your are like us, after you go the first positive pregnancy test, you start reading about all sorts of things on internet. You read about pregnancy calendars, you enter the first day of your last menstruation and they tell you when your due date is and you read that you (i mean you or your wife) is at the 6th week of her pregnancy. You can also pictures of what the ultrasound will look like and everything. So basically when you go to the doctor will all that in your head, and the doctor tells you he doesn't see anything, you SHOULD ask why.
I wasn't with my wife, i can imagine she wasn't that comfortable after the pelvic exam and the ultrasound, the doctor not being so talkative, she basically came home without knowing much. And then she (we) started to wonder what all this actually meant.
So first advice, before your first appointment with the doctor, prepare a list of questions, because you probably already know too much and at the same time not enough to understand the results of the first ultrasound. If you are not sure about something, ask about it right away. Internet is full of websites, blogs, forums that can answer about any question that exists about your pregnancy but at the same time for a given question you will find as many different answers as there are websites. You will just end up worrying about things that are not important.